Thank Yous That Sparkle

Want to feel more energetic?
 
Here’s a trick – try saying “thank you” differently. About a year ago I started trying it. It was a little shift, but the happy energy I got back was incredible.
 
As you go about your week, notice when a person does something nice for you. Everyday things. Like a server refilling your water. A stranger opening a door and motioning for you to go first. The trash collector emptying your bins. The barista creating a heart on your café latte.
 
Normally we might nod, say thanks, or from time to time not even notice. It's OK, we all do it. But this week, try saying your Thank Yous differently.
 
Look the person in the eyes. Smile. Then say something original. Some of my Go To’s are, "Thank you sooo much!" (emphasis on a long sooo). Or "Wow, that was so kind of you!" Or “This heart on my coffee is so inspiring, you’re an artist!”  
 
The key is in the eye contact. Sparks can’t ignite when staring at a smart phone. Also, say something that feels natural. Then say it a little sloooower. The spark happens because you are literally pulling yourself, and the other person, into the present moment. Igniting a connection between two humans. Very empowering.
 
Have fun with it! Watch how the server’s eyes light up from being noticed. Maybe they smile back. You might start getting compliments or connecting with people you never would have. I can’t tell you how many doors have been opened from my new Thank Yous. It’s double rewarding if you’re a parent. You’ll do less reminding your kids to look up and say Thank You because over time they begin modeling your behavior naturally.
 
Our culture moves fast these days. Take a moment to forge some compassionate connections that will fuel you. Hopefully, one day, compassion will fuel our world.
 
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Please share Your YMoment about how YOU say thank you with a sparkle and what happened afterwards in our comments section below. You can also post questions if you need help.

Let's do it!  If we inspire each other, moment by moment, we create a world fueled by compassion.

Follow Your Curiosity

Do you feel like life is so fast paced, your passion fell out of your bag along the way? Do you find yourself chatting about daily routines yearning to say something interesting but nothing comes to mind?

No worries. You may simply need to reconnect to your passion. The key is to follow your curiosity. It knows the path to your passion. Here’s how I do it:  

Look at your calendar. Find a few hours of uninterrupted, carefree time. Turn off your phone (yes, off). Then go to a bookstore by yourself, open the door, and STOP. Take a deep breath to leave stress and To Dos behind. This is Your YMoment.  It’s just you and your curiosity walking in that door.

Smile (believe me, smiling signals to your curiosity that it’s OK to come out and play!)  Now browse, flip through books, look at pictures.  Whatever you desire!  You might start feeling lighter, relaxed. Forget where you are or the time. These are signs that your curiosity is waking.

Start making a few mental notes – do you find yourself, for example, flipping through baking books? Maybe you could bake a cake for a neighbor? Why not! Don’t try to figure it out, this can diffuse curiosity. But do think about something fun you can DO around that new interest. With your curiosity awake, more doors will open.

Bookstores are great environments for stimulating curiosity. They’re quiet (so we can hear our curiosity speak). We can roam without interruption, and thus reach the carefree, creative zone where curiosity thrives. And they’re filled with boundless options, so YOUR curiosity can grab the wheel and navigate.   

When we are living life bursting with curiosity and passion, we are naturally more compassionate with others.

Want more inspiration?  Read this real life YStory how I used books to turn a passion into a business.

Make Eye Contact

Our lives have become very connected. But many of those connections are spent with a piece of technology. It's important to balance this type of connection with powerful moments of human connection. Here's how.

When you stop at your local coffee shop, grocery store or while picking up the kids at school, leave your smart phone in your car at least one time this week when you normally would bring it. Smile and make eye contact with people. Listen to what people are saying. Compliment at least one person on something they say that you find interesting or inspiring. This will create an instant moment of connection. Feel the happy energy you get back. 

Looking each other in the eyes helps us see and be seen. This is key to understanding and accepting one another's differences, which leads to living more compassionately.

Rain Walking

Rain gets a bad rap! If you are lucky enough to hear raindrops falling this week, put your wellies on and walk. Take an umbrella if you like. Or be crazy and let raindrops fall on your head to wash away stress. Jump into a puddle. The wilder you get, the happier you feel. Water falling from the sky combined with a carefree spirit fills a heart with joy. When our hearts overflow with joyful energy, we naturally act more compassionately toward others.

Notice Nature

The constant flood of information these days can drive us crazy.  There is a simple way to refresh the mind.  Stop and notice something simple in nature.  Imagine seeing a simple golden leaf outside your window being showered with raindrops.  Watch each drop tap the little leaf.  Instantly your mind will refresh with each drop.  When our minds are refreshed, it has space to hold thoughts of compassion to care for the world.